Online Dating Advice For Men Who Struggle Getting Matches

Online dating.

You all are probably too young to remember, but it used to be the territory of the desperate, timid, and socially awkward.

At least that was the stereotype circa the mid-2000's. How things have changed.

Now-a-days with the advent of social media there followed an explosion of dating and hook up apps. They are as common as Starbucks and about as popular to.

No doubt, online dating has become the modern day match maker. Instead of meeting girls organically out in public using day game too many rely on swiping right.

…all the more reason you need online dating advice and online dating tips to help guide you.

The biggest question most ask is how and where do you meet people that are date worthy?

Once you’re done with school and you’re working full time it gets harder and harder.

Are you going to meet the love of your life at a bar?

At a friends party?

Maybe haphazardly when you’re strolling through the mall?

Sure, why not.

Crazier things have happened, but why put it to chance?

This is why online dating has such a level of popularity. It is a buffet of people (delicious).

It can be difficult to meet quality people if you’re single and on your own.

Learning how to date online is useful because the sexual marketplace is now globalized and that beautiful girl you like has a wide range of options.

As a man it's play vs player so if you choose to ignore how to become attractive using an online dating app, you’re missing out on a wonderful way to meet a variety of girls you may never would otherwise.

You're also missing out on access to attractive girls who you will lose to another man potentially forever.

Stop looking at dating sites with skepticism and prejudice (they are selling a service, not crack) and learn how to use online dating sites and have fun with it.

You can literally browse other human beings by category

White, Black, Asian, mix, other. Set predefined height limits (if you're a short guy, this is the bane of your existence), set up filters on who can talk to you and who can not.

Unfortunately for your average guy, most dating apps are now swipe left or right. This sucks because you can't even take a shot and message a girl you're attracted to anymore like you could in the past.

Instead, you have to become attractive.

Adapt or die

Plain and simple it's gotten to a point where you have to get into that top 20% of men who women deem attractive.

...and it's only going to get more competitive.

If you're in the top 20%, women will at least say yes and give you a shot. It's only the top 4% of men who women find so attractive that they pursue.

So What Are you Looking for?

Dating sites cater to different crowds.

Tinder is good for meeting girls for casual dating, fwb type setup and maybe something more if you're handsome and charming enough.

Bumble is popular, the girls have to message you first but they always just send an emoji or say "hi." I've meet both girls who want hookups and proper dating.

Badoo is one of my favorites for meeting girls. It also has a "near me" feature that allows girls to message you who are close by.

OkCupid is a good for finding more relationship oriented girls, but you can also find girls interested in a casual relationship.

Optimizing your dating app profile

Now let's get into the profile.

Yes black pillers, looks really matter. Your pics are far and beyond the most important aspect of a dating app profile.

But you still need to know how to write a compelling profile description.

I'll cover both, so let's get to the most important, your pictures.

The profile picture

Time to be creative right? 

NO.

Pick a picture that looks like you.

Have a female friend tell you what a good picture is first off.

What you may think looks good may not look so hot to the opposite sex. Its always best to actually ask the opposite sex first when possible.

Here are some tips:

• Do not use your high school photos. I can't believe I need to state this, but I don’t care if your 21, you may look good, but its weird. Why don’t you have current pictures? Do you not go out, do you not have friends? These are the questions that will be raised, so do yourself a favor and ditch the school book photos. Also, girls like older guys. That cute 22 year old girl wants a man, not a boy.
• The best pics are the natural ones of you where you’re outside doing something dressed normally that actually looks like you. Not you 10 yrs ago, or you 20 lbs lighter.
• They make her curious.
• They don't look posed or contrived.