No Excuses: If You're Behind, It's Time To RUN

You're living behind, even if you can't quite put your finger on it, there's something off. I like to use money as the metric because it's clear and measurable. Let's say you're 33 years old making $35,000 a year.

That's a problem.

You need to start running your life like you're losing. Because you are losing. You can't walk through this. You can't even jog.

You need to run.

The 40-60 Hour Reality

If you're single with no kids and not working 40+ hours a week, you're lazy. If you're behind financially, you need closer to 60 hours. That's 12 hour days.

Sleep, work, fitness. Sleep, work, fitness.

That's it.

Until you get your money up, you cannot lead a proper adult male life.

Not a happy one, anyway. Sure, you can live like a Pattaya bro (fat bald old guy on a little dick pension, paying girls from the bottom rungs of society for sex and attention). But here's the thing, it's going to be impossible for you to do what you need to do to catch up.

This is where the rubber meets the road with self-improvement. You can't hire a personal trainer, proper gym with quality people, nutritionist, life coach, or image consultant because you don't make enough money.

If you can barely pay your bills, you need another income source.

Going into Overdrive

No women, no dating, no chasing. No, none of that. Put yourself in jail for at least a year to steer your ship right,

...but here you are at the bar having a beer.

Stop pretending everything's fine when you're broke.

This is why so many guys are depressed, they're living a lie.

Kick life into overdrive and make additional money from a second job and double down on self-improvement.

When you start liking who you see in the mirror, you'll do better because the cliche is true, life gets better when you get better.

Zero excuses

Here's the highest level of accountability. You need to confess to your friends. "I'm a fuckup. I'm 33 years old and still living like a teenager. My wardrobe is like a teenager's. My income is like a teenager's. I date like a teenager."

Be honest, if you lost your job right now, could you get another one making the same money? If not, it's because you have no real skills. You've been living like a teenage boy.

I see decent older men all the time in Thailand and Vietnam who haven't worn a suit since high school. They don't even own one. When I ask what's in their closet, the answer is nothing.

How do you get through life like this?

It's Not Just About Income

Some guys actually make enough money to afford proper clothes and lifestyle upgrades, but they still don't live like it. If you have the money but your wardrobe and appearance still look like a boy's, you're still a boy.

You might have more money than the broke guy, but what are you actually doing with your life?

If you're living a life where you're not exposed to anything you wouldn't have been exposed to as a teenage boy, Houston, we have a problem. You need to get clear on what a 30/40 something year old man should be doing versus a 22 year old.

Age-Appropriate Living Matters

A 30-year-old man and a 21-year-old man should be living completely different lives. I expect an 18-21 year old to be at spring break, college parties, chasing women, hitting the gym. That's appropriate for that age.

But at 30, that should be way out of your system. You might still go out obviously, but you're not about it anymore as you should have more important things to do.

At 35+ this clubbing lifestyle should really be done. By 40, the only time you should end up at a club is if you're meeting up with old friends and it's a one off thing.

A 40 year old man regularly going to these places is pathetic. You're lame and a loser. Again, you should have more important things to do.

Confession and Accountability

Are you competent enough to live your life as an adult, to properly be called a man?

Think about it. You're 40 years old and you've never owned a suit. You have a job and pay your bills, that's cool, you're just surviving. Life isn't supposed to be about surviving.

Life is supposed to be about thriving.

It's okay to struggle (I was an English teacher in Thailand, making $1000 a month at 30 years old who quit his job at PWC), but it's not okay to always be struggling.

That's the difference.

Life should not be one perpetual crisis after the next.

If you're not living life like you should be, there's only one thing to do: go into overdrive on self-improvement and get to work.

I don't mean to be rude or hurtful, but you're probably not competent enough to run this part of your life on your own, you're not qualified to do it by yourself.

Get the help you need. Hire the coaches, study self improvement from websites and YouTube. Most importantly, put in the work, make changes and don't just consume content.

Stop making excuses and start running.

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