In this content I will attempt to guide women on how to tell if a guy likes you. The problem today is that both men and women apply how they think and feel onto one another. The reality is that men and women are different (which apparently is a controversial thing to state in today's PC cancel culture).
How to tell if a guy likes you short version:
Most men want to sleep with you, but that does not mean they like you. Men are not women and they can separate their emotions and the act itself in a way that women can't understand.
To know if a guy really likes you for you – set standards for yourself and see if the guy is willing to meet them. If he meets them, and is willing to put in the work required to be with you, he likes you. If not, he is just sexually interested in you.
How to tell if a guy likes you long version:
First pay attention to the mans behavior. Is he aggressive towards you? Smiles a lot? Mentions how you two should do something sometimes. Seems to treat you differently from other girls? Acts differently when you’re around? Seems to be interested in what you’re interested in (Don’t be fooled! He may just like you enough to want to bed you).
You always know when someone is interested in you by their behavior. This is the easy part, the tough part for most women comes down to figuring out how exactly to know when a guy likes you for you beyond just sex or beyond just a friend. My answer is to set standards of behavior for yourself and to see if the man willing to meet them.
Nothing crazy, rather, just a bunch of small things.
Does he call you when he says he is going to call you? Is he late? Does he open door for you? What are the things you expect from him? There are a lot of things women do that drive men away when things seem to be going so well. Thing that turn men off and push them away without you knowing.
The flip side is also true, not being selective enough with whom you spend your time with.
Men look for sex and find love – women it’s the other way around.
We are all descended (that means women too) from men who did not pass up opportunities to have sex. Men in general behave like sperm and women behave like eggs. Meaning men are plentiful and expendable and women are not.
For men, sex outside a committed relationship from a biological perspective is a low risk high gain proposition. For women it’s a high risk high gain proposition.
This is why women are naturally are more selective about their sexual partners than men are. Girls have to make sure that the man has good genes (physically attractive), is a good provider (successful, dominant male) and ideally both.
Women look for quality, men look for quantity
So how do you know if a guy actually likes you or if he just wants to sleep with you? Also, how do you deal with an attractive or successful man that you wan to jump into bed with right away, but still want to have a relationship with?
Slow down. As a woman you hold all the cards when it comes to sex. Men control when a committed relationship is formed (attractive, successful men that is as they are rare).
Pro tip: Value is create by setting standards for yourself
The first step toward discovering if a guy likes you and when a guy likes you is to create value in yourself. What does that mean you might be thinking. Let me ask you, why are gold and diamonds so valuable? Answer: Because they are rare and are not easy to get or come by.
You too must become like a diamond – not easy to get. Not easy to come by. Unique and rare. This is why all women want the same small portion of the male population. Attractive, successful guys are rare.
There are lot's of pretty girls walking around however. To attract the best, you have to first be the best. So before you can increase your level of expectations for men, you need to increase the level of expectation you have for yourself.
Because the relationship you have with yourself is the relationship you will have with others.
Focus on things like health, beauty, education, manners, your femininity. Just like you're attracted to masculine qualities in a man, a man is attracted to femininity.
Men desire a woman that is fun and beautiful, but who is also smart and comfortable in her femininity, at least the best quality men do. The kind of men you would actually want to have a relationship with. So be modest but sexy. Selective but flirtatious. Never arrogant and unreasonable.
Men are visual and looks matter – no sense fighting this truth.
Women expect a man to be reasonably good looking and very successful. It's what you want and are attracted to. But what do the men you want, want?
You want a guy who actually likes you and is not simply attracted to you sexually right? This is where the idea of creating value and setting standards for yourself comes from.
By creating value through making yourself a very attractive woman in all sense of the word (mind, body, soul) and also setting standards for the men in you life. If you do this then it will be easy to answer the question of how to tell if a guy likes you.
This is what I mean by setting standards: He must demonstrate that he is capable and willing to treat you a certain way first before you consider sleeping with him. This helps filter out men who only like you because they want to have sex with you, from men who like you and want to have sex with you, but also want a relationship.
So by making yourself not easy to get or come by through setting standards and expectations, you are making yourself more valuable and putting your price too high for guys who are not really that interested in you.
Setting standards is the real key to determine if a guy really likes you
All guys are interested in sex, and most guys you meet would sleep with you if you allowed it. It matters little if they are 16 or 60. It’s the same deal. If we like what we see, we are going to try and get it. Period. So when it comes to women, that is always the plan of attack for most men:
- Find out if we have a chance with you.
- If we do have a chance, figure out what it is going to cost to get it.
Why do you think that guy stopped to talk to you about your favorite movie? Why do you think he decided to sit next to you in class? Why do you think he is talking to you about what you like and what your interests are? It is not to learn anything from you or to find out your likes and dislikes. It is because he saw something he liked and is now trying to get it.
It is really that uncomplicated. No, he does not care what your sign is, or what you do for a living, or what you did with your friends this past summer. This is what women do. Trying to get to know the man so they can evaluate him to see if he has potential. We want to know if we can sleep with you and what we need to do to make that happen.
If he knows that he is going to have to treat you with respect, call you once a day, spend every weekend with you, drive to pick you up, open doors for you and show he can commit to you and only you for a period of time, that is work and investment.
That investment in time money and energy might be too much for most guys.
You’re either long term potential, or you’re just “getting to know each other”
A man will group you in his head as someone who is a girlfriend material and has long term potential, or as someone who is just for fun.
If he groups you as someone who is just for fun, he is simply interested in sex with you. By setting standards you can quickly eliminate this type. If the guy actually likes you, then he will step up to the plate and meet your requirements.
This is the best to know if a guy likes you or when a guy likes you but it is not the end all and be all.
It can happen that you sleep with a guy right away and have a great relationship. This happens with a guy that likes you. The problem is you never know for sure which way he is viewing you until you set standards.
If you sleep with a guy right away and he sticks around he likes you. But it's a risk if it's a man you're looking for something serious with because women tend to go for men who have options and choice.
How to tell if a guy likes you: Conclusion
If a man likes what he sees, he will approach you and talk to you. This does not mean necessarily he likes you, it just means he is attracted to you. He is trying to figure out if he can sleep with you and if he can sleep with you, how much effort it is going to take.
If you’re a high quality girl that sets levels of expectations for your self and for the men in your life, you will weed out the guys who are just looking for fun.
The guys who like you will stick around and do the work.