Yes you love your boyfriend, he is wonderful, but that still does not stop you from thinking in the back of your mind that maybe he is not faithful.
So how to spot a cheating boyfriend? Like the saying goes, girls need a reason, guys just need a place. As dating is built on trust, if you don’t trust the man, the relationship will be over rather quickly. Instead of taking an accusatory role, reflect on some of the following.
Be suspicious of social media.
Finding someone online is not that difficult, especially with dating sites, Facebook apps, instant messenger, and forums. When dating someone, it is actually quite difficult to meet someone new out and about because your dating. Typically that involves spending all your free time with each other.
Social media is an outlet for a guy to meet someone new without you knowing about it. Who’s in his IM list? Check his browser history, has he been on a dating site recently? A little digging can go a long way. Be careful though, if your man is innocent and finds out you were snooping around, there are going to be problems. Respect a persons space with in reason.
Schedule change. What you didn’t know?
We’re all creatures of habit. Guys form a routine and stick to it, as do you. While some men may be spontaneous, this is not true for the day to day stuff. So if their is a sudden change without you knowing why, that’s a red flag. You shouldn’t jump to the conclusion that something is up, but as before, do a little digging around. Just be tuned into whats up. The most important part is how you found out. Were you told or did you have to ask?
Cooling off or not that into you anymore?
Being with someone new is exciting and fun, but after time it’s normal and OK for the heat and passion to cool off. At the start you never want to leave each others sight, but now you need some space. A girls night out, or a guys night out. This is always a bit tricky as you do not want to hurt the other person, but needing space is reasonable.
So this is not automatically a sign that anything is up. It is probably more a result of the relationship moving into a new calmer phase. Just be aware if there is any emotional distancing. The common stuff you should pay attention too: Does he listen, is he distant, preoccupied, uninterested, mentally not their?
I’ll Be back Later
Like I just said, you need space, he needs space. No problem. Just as the intensity of a relationship cools off over time, so may the time you spend with one another. Don’t get it mixed up, spending less time with each other: OK. Spending no time together: BAD.
Ask questions, maybe he really needs to work late, or has a lot of events to go to. Who knows, his work may be ready to wrap up a big proposal and they need him around 24/7. There could be legitimate demands on his time. However, these bursts of time commitments are just that, bursts of time. The shouldn’t last forever so look for any unreasonable and unexplainable time commitments.
Voices in my head
When you know you know. Listen to that little voice in your head, it may be right. Just don’t do anything to crazy if you follow your feelings. Ask yourself if your concerns are reasonable, or if it is because your a jealous person. Problems sometimes stem not from cheating, but because your driving him away inadvertently. Be aware of this.
Don’t do anything crazy
If you’re happy and everything is good, then relax, no worries. Only worry when there is reason to worry. Trust first, but don’t be oblivious to warning signs. Follow your feelings as they are an emotional compass. If you’re feeling bad about things then ask questions and connect directly with your boyfriend. By all means, you do not want him hearing that you have concerns from someone else, that just makes things worse.
Never accuse, just talk, maybe there is something going on that has nothing to do with a cheating boyfriend. Maybe you’re completely wrong. To spot a cheating boyfriend is simple. Just pay attention to his actions as since actions for a man always speak louder than words and he could be simply telling you what you want to hear.
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