Your thoughts create your reality, understanding that is the first step towards fixing your lack of interest in life. Hi everyone, thanks for reading. If you have been reading this site for a while now you know how integral I believe personal development is to finding a fulfiling relationship. Our lives are made up of 4 main areas: Financial, Career, Personal Development, and Relationships (romantic, friendship, family, that sort of thing). Often, when unhappiness sets in, we feel a void in our life. Something is missing and where not sure what. Instead of staring into that void directly to see what is actually missing. We go looking for a quick fixes to fill that void in our lives by sometimes amplifying one other area of our life to make up for the lack in another. This is what I mean: